The R word is even worse for writers than the F-word. And no, it’s not REVISION.
You can look at rejection as a chance to throw yourself a good old-fashioned pity party, or you can see it as an opportunity. Me, I’m kind of a glass half-full kind of girl, and I see it as an opportunity. Which is good, since I just received Rejection #1 of 2015.
But I’m happy about it! (No, I’m not crazy. Or masochistic.) It was a polite rejection, complete with encouraging words about the good stuff in my manuscript and some very useful feedback about the bad. Perhaps I’m taking this so well because I was already working on the bad stuff.
Perhaps not. I’m grateful that the editor took the time to send me a personal note. She could have sent a form rejection, with nothing I can use to improve my work. (And no encouragement to soften the blow.) Or worse: she could have sent nothing.
That’s right, nothing. Many agents and editors, swamped and awash in piles of manuscripts by aspiring writers, do not reply at all, simply giving a deadline by which you should realize that their answer is “no.” Better to look at the bright side when you receive an actual rejection!
I’ve also had some recent help from writing friends Jersey Farm Scribe and Red Said What?. Check out their takes on rejection. Good advice! As for me, I’m taking a deep breath, stretching my sides – yes, those “raise your arms and bend to the side” yoga stretches open you up to new possibilities as well as deep breath – and continuing to revise my manuscript.
On a happier note, join me in congratulating Angela Ackerman and Becca Puglisi of Writers Helping Writers on reaching the milestone of 100,000 books sold! Their Emotion Thesaurus is a handy friend sitting on my desk, and their other books are great too. Plus, they’re giving us a gift to celebrate – a free ebook of Emotion Amplifiers AND a chance to win a print copy of your choice of their books! Who doesn’t love a free gift? 🙂